Strengths Insights Part 10: Relator
Welcome to Part 10 of the Strengths Insight Series. Each week we look at a different Strength from the Gallup StrengthsFinder® framework. Reading these posts will give you an insight into those you work and live with.
If Relator is a dominant strength you will be pulled to people you already know. You don’t necessarily shy away from meeting new people, but you derive a great deal of pleasure and strength from being around you close friend. You are comfortable with intimacy. Once a new connection is made you seek to deepen the relationship. You want to understand their feelings, their aspirations, fears and dreams.
For you a relationship has value only if it is genuine. You know that this kind of closeness implies a certain risk, you might be taken advantage of, but you are willing to take that risk. The more you share the more you risk. The more you risk together the more you prove your caring is genuine. These are your steps towards real friendship.
In the framework, “The Evolution of an idea” enables the host to build a close core to the community. They can however be difficult for new people to feel an immediate connection. The Relator Strength is highly complementary with Includer. One is about making sure everybody is included, whilst the other is about strengthening relationships.
Tips for Maximising your Relator Strength
- Find a workplace in which friendships are encouraged. You will not do well in an overly formal organisation.
- Deliberately learn as much as you can about the people you meet. You are a catalyst for trusting relationships.
- Be open about being more interested in the character and personality of others than their title or status.
- No matter how busy, stay in touch with your friends.
- Be honest with your friends. True caring means you help them be successful. Honest feedback is helpful.
Managing people who have Relator in their top 5 Strengths.
- Tell this person that you care about them. He organises his life around close relationships so he will want to know where he stands with you.
- He likes deeper relationships and they take longer to establish, so having him work in a stable team is best.
- Help him understand his colleagues, his aspirations, goals and strengths. The weekly team meeting where everyone is able to express some aspect of their private life is very helpful for a person with Relator as a dominant strength.
- Encourage him to take up roles of leadership. People work harder for someone whom they know and trust.
How many NZers have Relator in their Top 5?
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