Sophie was explaining that the only time in her adult life that she had felt like she was thriving was when she was living a strict day routine. She was getting up early, meditating, having a good breakfast, setting goals, sticking to the to-do list, reflecting at the end of each day, exercising, eating healthy food and going to bed early.
“Why did you stop” I asked?
“It was just too hard” she replied, “life was no fun”.
Over 15 years as a facilitator of personal excellence, I have had the privilege of working with people who have broken through to find immense joy in their work. And they then find their lives are much more fun. Core to their success is a healthy day routine.
There are hundreds of books on healthy day routines, but few teach what allows us to live them sustainably? If something is not easy it is not sustainable.
First, what makes a healthy day routine unsustainable. It is because we are social beasts. We want to get along with people. That means we subconsciously compare ourselves with those around us. Even though we want to excel as a unique individual we fall for common thinking. If you don’t believe me, listen to every day conversation. How many times do you hear something like: “everybody says … ”.
To excel is not average.
The average person jokes about kicking back rather than doing what is necessary. Common coffee culture is an example. How often do you hear someone say they must have a coffee to kick start their day? It’s become an urban myth. Caffeine taken with this mindset is an addiction. People who excel, may drink coffee, but they drink it deliberately. They do not allow themselves to become subject to common thinking.
Change the mindset and establishing successful habits become easy.
Supporting people who are curious about what it means to excel in their uniqueness is the essence of my work as a strengths coach.